In my short life, I have found that people and relationships can be interesting.  My observations are mine and in no particular order.  I have been lucky in my short life to know the people I have known (even the people whom hurt me whether intentionally or not).  I try to give credit where credit is due (initials only).

I have found that men are only interested in something when it becomes a competition.

I have found that men believe anything is possible as long as a man is in charge.

I have found that women believe anything is possible as long as a man is not in charge.

I have found that women hate it when they cannot use their breasts and/or vagina to get what they want.

I have found that women hate it when other women are successful (though none would admit it).

I have found that people often say how they want someone is honest, loving, caring, and with a good heart.  These same people say looks and material goods do not matter, yet, some of their first requirements are:

• Must be employed (at a high-paying job though they do not say this)
• Must have a nice body (translated, you must be an Adonis, well-hung, or well-breasted depending on the sex of the person)
• Must have your own transportation (using the transit system does not count, no matter how much it helps the environment; translated, you should be driving a sports car, luxury car, or SUV)

It seems to me, using this list of requirements, negates the requirement that looks and material goods do not matter.  Many will say that I am bitter, disgruntled, controversial, or even confrontational.  That may be true but that does not change the reality of the situation.  One of the other requirements is usually honesty but as we see, many people do not practice what they preach (the symbol of hypocrisy or terrorism).

I have found that people will take a position on one side or the other, never down the middle but will complain when others take an extreme position.  Is our self-esteem that low that we cannot be an individual, but must always be a “team player” or “member of the team?”

I have found that people always look the other direction when it is to their benefit.

I have found that people only do things when they sense it is in their benefit.

I have found that people only do what you expect of them, nothing more and much less (related to the point of accountability).

I have found that money, title, and material goods mean everything, and people nothing. Further, people care more for pets than each other (my pets would agree).  I guess it’s because our pets love us for us, not judging us, and not requiring us to be wealthy, endowed, and young (unlike people).

I have found that those whom usually condemn an act or a person usually (secretly) are doing that very act or behaving like that person (it’s okay for them to do it as long as no one else does it or knows that they are doing it) (does this sound familiar? Ask the Baptist and Catholic churches (at least for now).

I have found that I am usually ahead of the masses when it comes to observations of typical human behaviours (and as such, chastised for such observations).

I have found that I usually make others uncomfortable because of my willingness to hold people (including myself) accountable for their (my) actions, often being labeled as bitter or disgruntled.

I have found that stereotypes (of which we all are a member of at least one) only exist because there is (some) truth to them.  I have also found you do not have to be limited by them either.

I have found that preferences for certain types (of people) have their roots in power and control issues, and in some cases, guilt.  Thanks, Rice Queens.

I have found that love always calls when you are away from the phone but never leaves a message or shows up on caller ID.

I have found that in relationships, you should always keep eyes wide open.

I have found that love is least when, where, and how you expect it.  It is never with whom or what you expect.

I have found that is truly better to have loved (and lost) than to have never have loved at all.  I disagree about the statement with the phrase ‘and lost’ after ‘to have loved’.  Honestly, losing hurts (especially when it could have been prevented by saying three simply words or letting go of the past).  Bittersweet thanks, AR and DW.

I have found you cannot go forward without first looking backward.

I have found that true love transcends any and all problems the two of you may have, even after you are no longer part of the same whole.  You will always love them.  Thanks, FS and ECA.

I have found that you are never too old to begin anew.

I have found that people can change (if you let them).  Thanks, ALE!

I have found that change is not always good but it is still change and must be accepted for what it is: change for the sake of change sake.  Thanks, VBF and CDH.

I have found that you should never be afraid of what you want (even if others would disagree) because only you are responsible for your own happiness (granted, this is much easier said than done).  Thanks, VBF.

I have found that you can have all the possible methods for communication (mobile phones, pagers, electronic mail, postal mail, transit passes, and vehicles) and still not be heard (because the person you wanted to communicate with heard you but wasn’t listening).  Thanks, VBF

I have found that (sometimes) you must go through unhappiness before you can reach happiness.

I have found it is easier if you just do it yourself.  Thanks, Mom!

I have found it is never as bad it seems and is never as good as it used to be.  It just is.  Thanks, AT (may your soul know peace forever).

I have found that often what we want (what we see to be the best for us) is not often what we truly need.  Thanks, RAV.

I have found that you should never settle, waiting for what you really want.  If you have to travel the road alone, take a map.  Thanks, AR and DW.

I have found that running away from your problems is mute.  They just catch the ‘Next Plane Out’.  Thanks, JWC.

I have found we always want that which we either cannot have or is out-of-stock.

I have found if you want something, you must struggle with it before it can become yours.  Even then, it is not really (always) yours.

I have found that people claim they are one religion or another, and religion claims to love all and accept others as they are but these same people try to “conform” you to the(ir) “chosen religion”.  What happened to the love and acceptance so often talked about?

I have found that religion is really an institutionalized and legalized form of sexism, racism, and class hierarchy (the very things that America and other "Western" civilizations claim to be against).  It is a way for a few to control the many (why am I the only one who sees this and is not afraid to talk about it?).

I have found that people fear simplicity (how else do you explain the drama?).

I have found the more I know, the less I understand.  Thanks, DH.

I have found the meaning of life is somewhere within but you must choose to take that road.

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